Answering the Hard "Ask"

A student-pastor in children and family ministries recently asked me for an interview via email. It was part of a class assignment. She said she chose me because people "say wonderful things" about me and considering her vocational goals, I seemed to be "a good fit."
Blah, blah, blah...I wonder if she still feels that way.
The first couple of questions were easy -- why do you do what you do, what is the purpose? But then she asked how I, in the role of Pastoral Counselor, could interface with her, in the role of Christian Ed Coordinator at a church.
I just couldn't sugarcoat my answer and it is my fervent prayer that years from now she will look back and find the good in it.
Here's what I wrote:

Here's the naked truth.
Each of my classes at seminary got a folder in which I would keep my notes. Yellow folders were the best…they denoted happy class! Black folders were not happy. My Christian Ed class folder was black.
The reason for that is that I have long felt that Christian Ed in the church has been reduced to a cutesy babysitting service developed so that adults can attend worship uninterrupted, a substitute for parental guidance (ie “we came back to church so our children could learn morals"), or a Christian club for the easy, cool, pliable kids that works to stay on top of the newest, coolest movement/curriculum/camp/conference/song -- where numbers in attendance is the marker for success.
You’re asking yourself: could she be more rude?
In that climate, how do we work together?
Be around to pick up the pieces.
Those of the kid who didn’t fit in, whose parents don’t understand why church didn’t “do the trick,” who took alcohol or grass to church camp and got sent home; or the adult who grew up believing in a fairy-tale Jesus who should have rescued him or her but didn’t; or the outcast who still isn’t invited to family events because he married a person of a different race, religion, or gender; or someone who decided one day to claim her inheritance and go to a foreign land but now just wants to come home.
I feel Christian Ed needs to be overhauled entirely to include full families worshiping and serving together. I feel it should include working in the neighborhoods where we live, getting to know our neighbors so we can love them, going to the most marginalized in our communities (10 blocks away --not across the globe) to serve them on days other than Christmas and Thanksgiving. It should include getting dirty, exposed, and real.
Our children and adults need to be challenged with the true Jesus who wasn’t the nicest, most regular kind of guy. He was a revolutionary who challenged the culture of his day -- the religious people of his day and he got killed for doing it. Those are the footsteps in which we are called to follow. We need to help our people climb out of the box of passive recipient and into the adventure of critical thinker.
Instead, we grow them up to be pew potatoes and ecclesiastical bureaucrats, rather than wild-eyed, honey-eating, goatskin wearing Johns and Janes crying in the wilderness of planet earth.
So how do we work together?
We set one big goal: to make my job be obsolete.
More probably, you send me referrals and teach a class here and there on things like grief recovery, parenting, and communication.